We date like we're ordering takeaway

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We live in a world where we date like we're ordering our favourite Thai takeaway on UberEats. Easily accessible, click, click, swipe, swipe, add to cart, see you in 30 minutes. The choices we are presented are endless. Why have Pad Thai again, when there's one gigantic fucking buffet of mediocre choices at our fingertips? Our eyes are always wandering, we never fixate them on one singular thing. We're swiping through choices faster than our local check-out chick can swipe our groceries. Look at all these opportunities, all these chances we're given served up on a brightly lit iPhone every day. Who cares when an opportunity is lost or the satisfaction wears off, we've got endless choices and we know it, so we jump to another app to get that instant gratification, to get the attention from someone new, a new distraction and a jolt of excitement.

Our lives are 140 characters in a Tinder bio, it's the profile picture where you're looking happy and living your best life, SWIPE RIGHT, instant attraction. It's the perfectly executed witty one liners and placement of the right emojis or perhaps a funny gif. Our relationships are added to Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram, shower them with attention every day. Like, like, like. It's delete Tinder, but only for a while. It's tagging in pictures, making future plans, but not too far in the future that's too daunting, maybe just this upcoming week. It's removing of pictures, deleting of all social media and then blocking their contact number, pretend they never existed. It's re-install Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, whatever your fucking poison is.

We think a person liking our Instagram photo means something. We think them viewing every story we post means they want to fuck us when really they're killing time on the toilet. We think intimacy is eye-fucking each other from across the bar. We think a "goodnight" message equals romance and effort. Hell, we don't even know what effort or romance really looks like or feels like, because none of us stay around long enough to find out, and why would we bother when we can just throw out a super-like, say a few fake charming lines to lure the next one in and be on our way to a new choice in an hour?

We’re so connected yet disconnected at the same time. We want love and to be loved in return but we don’t want to put in the hard yards for it. We expect love to be presented on a silver platter, wrapped in a bow, like our meals are, instantly. But love is not like how the movies portray it. Love is calm, patient, comfortable. Our vocabulary consists of "leave me alone", "this isn't working", "I'm not sorry for breaking your heart, we were never really exclusive", "I'm just too busy right now", "you're not worth my time", "I need something more". Or if you’re a real dick, you ghost the person. And that in its self shows you who that person really is. Dishonest, a coward. Why would you even want that? We selfishly make decisions because that's all we know. And yet, when we finally slow down and sit alone for a while, we wonder why we're left so fucking empty, unfulfilled, miserable and slightly broken. We have no idea how to see our lives for what it really is instead of what it isn't. We're constantly comparing our lives and relationships to others. We're flooded with so much stimuli and content, it makes us dizzy trying to keep up. We're left dissatisfied and in despair. We want more, what more is we don't know, but we're chasing it, searching for it, swiping for it, seeking validation.

Imagine what kind of relationships we all could have if we stopped for a minute and enjoyed the company we had, instead of thinking of the next when that person is still sitting right in front of us. True love does exist but it's something you need to build and work on every single day. Build a connection in front of you, instead of through a dimly lit phone. Show up to hear their voice instead of stringing words across a screen. Touch them, slow down, really feel their body with your fingers. We all want a home, someone we can come to and lay our heads on their shoulders when life gets tough. Isn't that the definition of a home? Not where you are from but where you are wanted? We all need someone to trust, to catch us when we fall. Someone who will hold us when we feel unlovable and say "you are not perfect, but you're perfect for me, flaws and all". We need someone who can make us laugh when we’re happy or upset. We all need someone we can make future plans with, grande plans, life plans, plans bigger than tomorrow. We need something to look forward to, something to aim for, something to give us a sense of purpose, a family, a house, an actual life to share, someone to grow with. We all want closeness, simplicity, a life where we don't need to compare or receive likes, comments and re-tweets to validate how great our relationships is. We all want to live in the now, instead of living online. We want commitment, true intimacy and actual effort. We want to be happy and content where we are heading and who we are with. We don't want to have this overwhelming fear that we are missing out. And here's the catch, no bullshit, nothing painted shiny and made out to be an illusion: you're not actually missing out on anything, not when you appreciate everything you have in front of you.

We could have all that, but will we ever stop swiping?

Do we really know each other? (460 questions to ask)

I’m a deep person, I loathe small talk. Every date I’ve been on everyone always wants the questions I like to ask because it gets them thinking, so over the years I’ve compiled a list:

1. Is it harder to mourn an actual loss or a loss of an ideal you never had?
2. What is more difficult for you, looking into someones eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someones eyes when they are telling you how they feel?
3. Think of the last person who you know that died. You have the chance to give them 1 hour of life back, but you have to give up one year of yours. Do you do it? Why or Why not?
4. Would you rather leave your hometown and never be able to return again, or stay in your hometown but never be able to leave?
5. When you think about people who have died, do you picture them anywhere?
6. What’s worse - having everything and then losing it, or never having it at all? 
7. What's more important, truth or happiness?
8. What's something everyone else loves that you secretly find overrated? How come?
9. Would you prefer to be smart or happy, and why?
10. What is your biggest regret in life so far?
11. Of all your pet-peeves, which is the strangest?
12. What are your three weaknesses?
13. Which is more logical to follow—your heart or your head?
14. You can have one superpower – and only one. What is it, and why did you pick it?
15. What are the five material possessions you will like to save if your house is on fire?
16. What is the worst date you’ve ever had?
17. If you are given a chance to change something about yourself, what would it be?
18. Are you allergic to anything?
19. What turns you on/off?
20. What do you look for in a guy/girl?
21. One thing that you will never do again?
22. A strange thing that makes you break a relationship right away?
23. Do you have a place where you enjoy going to think?
24. What is your favourite saying?
25. If could relive childhood all over again without being able to change anything, would you?
26. Looking at your current level of intelligence and attractiveness, which would you choose to increase/improve?
27. Which have you thought about more, your wedding or your funeral?
28. If you knew you would never meet your soulmate or be happy in a relationship, would you choose to still get married/settle down with someone?
29. Do you take what you can get, or are you “all or nothing?
30. Have you ever thought you had a mental health issue/illness?
31. Which are you most like and why -a river, a lake, or an ocean?
32. If your partner/you were to get pregnant at this current moment, would you keep or abort the baby?
33. What is the biggest mistake you’ve made?
34. What do you feel is your biggest personality flaw?
35. Which do you admire more -your mother or your father?
36. Who do you spend more time trying to impress?
37. What is something that you do often, but almost always regret?
38. Have you ever fantasized about having sexual relations with me?
39. Do you prefer to be the big spoon or little spoon?
40. Do you prefer to be tied up or do the tying? (bondage)
41. Do you have a martyr complex?
42. What is something you wish you were complemented on a lot more?
43. If you just met someone and found out they were a psychopath, if you knew they would never harm you, would you like to be their friend?
44. Have you ever admired a manipulator?
45. What is something that if someone does it, they immediately lose your respect?
46. What would having sex with the person you’re talking to be like? (Characteristics)
47. What do you think the person you’re talking to thinks their best quality is?
48. What do you think people your age’s biggest insecurity is?
49. What do you think makes you the most different compared to everyone else in the room?
50. What do you think makes you the most different compared to everyone else your age?
51. What personality characteristic gets you in trouble the most?
52. What personality characteristic gets you the most friends?
53. Pick a personality characteristic from the person you’re talking to that you would want to have.
54. If you were a relationship with the person you’re talking to, what do you see them doing that would end the relationship?
55. What characteristic makes you a bad partner?
56. What characteristic makes you a great partner?
57. Why do you think you are single?
58. What would make you leave your partner?
59. What would your parents have to do to lose your love?
60. What would your parents have to do to lose your respect?
61. What about growing up has been the hardest for you?
62. How do you deal with bad memories?
63. How good are you at reading people?
64. What is a weakness you have in your relationships?
65. Do you think it is/will be easy for you to say “I love you” or difficult?
66. If you had a daughter, what would you tell her about boys?
67. If you had a son, what would you tell him about girls?
68. Which do you think you are stronger in? Intelligence or emotional awareness?
69. Are you more of a long-term or short-term relationship person?
70. What scares you the most about being in a relationship?
71. Are you attracted to happy people or broken souls?
72. What do you blame your parents for?
73. List five ways in which you are, after all, quite difficult to live with?
74. The chief problems in my relationship with my mother were…
75. The chief problems in my relationship with my father were…
76. If someone likes me a lot, I start to feel…
77. What did you learn about relationships from your parents?
78. What slightly unhealthy things feel attractive in a partner? How might this relate to your opposite sex parent?
79. What slightly unhealthy things feel attractive in a partner?
80. If you could consider yourself dispassionately, what might you warn a friend about if they were thinking of starting a relationship with you?
81. If I were to explain a bit more to people about how I felt about things, they would…
82. What are, or would be, my faults as a parent?
83. What would hurt you the most, in terms of what your kids do/are like/think?
84. Name three sexual scenarios that especially excite you.
85. When do you cry or want to cry (as an adult)?
86. List five things that are the important to you in your life. How much of your time do you give to each of these?
87. What things do you often end up buying that don’t – on reflection, much of the time – actually satisfy you that much?
88. What are you trying to say through your clothes?
89. Name three works of art (music, literature and visual art/architecture) that mean a lot to you.
90. What are you a little addicted to? Porn, alcohol, shopping, arguing, etc.
91. What negative character flaws do you fear – in your worst nightmares – that other people have spotted about you?
92. If I knew I couldn’t fail, in my professional life, I’d try to…
93. Rank in order of importance for you in your career: Money, Status, Creativity, Social Impact, Colleagues.
94. What sort of things have made you envious recently?
95. When my partner disappoints me, I: Explode/get angry at them, withdraw, re-evaluate our relationship, other. Why? 
96. What often impairs your decision making process? Lack of confidence, impatience, desire to please, over-excitement, etc.
97. Choose four adjective to describe yourself.
98. What are you currently lying to certain people around you about?
99. If a really kind person wanted to praise me, they’d say…
100. If a really tough person assessed me, they’d say…
101. Are you dominant or submissive sexually? And in the rest of your life?
102. What things would deeply alarm your loved ones if they knew them about you?
103. If you could create your ideal pornography, what would it feature?
104. What would you ideally like someone to feel compassionate towards you for?
105. What did you most enjoy doing as a child? Do you get those feelings now?
106. When does silence convey more meaning than words? 
107. How do you spend the majority of your free time? 
108. Who do you think of first when you think of ‘success?’ 
109. What did you want to be when you grew up?
110. How will today matter in five years from now?
111. How have you helped someone else recently?
112. What is your greatest skill?
113. Do you see to believe or believe to see?
114. How are you pursuing your dreams right now?
115. What’s the next big step you need to take? 
116. If today was the last day of your life, would you want to do what you are about to do today? 
117. If today was the last day of your life, who would you call and what would you tell them?
118. Who do you dream about? 
119. What do you have trouble seeing clearly in your mind?
120. What are you looking forward to?
121. What is the number one thing you want to accomplish before you die? 
122. When is love a weakness? 
123. What has been the most terrifying moment of your life thus far? 
124. Who is the strongest person you know?
125. If you could take a single photograph of your life, what would it look like?
126. Is the reward worth the risk?
127. For you personally, what makes today worth living?
128. What have you done in the last year that makes you proud?
129. What did you learn recently that changed the way you live? 
130. What is your fondest memory from the past three years? 
131. What are the primary components of a happy life?
132. How would the world be different if you were never born?
133. What is your favorite song and why?
134. With the resources you have right now, what can you do to bring yourself closer to your goal?
135. What are your top three priorities?
136. Why do we idolize sports players?
137. What is the nicest thing someone has ever done for you? 
138. What do you see when you look into the future? 
139. What makes you angry? Why? 
140. What is the most valuable life lesson you learned from your parents?
141. What does love feel like? 
142. What are your favorite simple pleasures?
143. If you could go back in time and tell a younger version of yourself one thing, what would you tell? 
144. What do you do to deliberately impress others? 
145. What will you never do?
146. Excluding romantic relationships, who do you love? 
147. What is your earliest childhood memory?
148. What book has had the greatest influence on your life? 
149. What three questions do you wish you knew the answers to? 
150. What is the greatest peer pressure you’ve ever felt? 
151. What’s the biggest lie you once believed was true? 
152. In your lifetime, what have you done that has hurt someone else?
153. What’s the best part of growing older? 
154. What’s been on your mind most lately?
155. What do you think is worth waiting for?
156. What chances do you wish you had taken?
157. Where else would you like to live?  Why?
158. What motivates you to go to work each day? 
159. What do you wish you had done differently? 
160. What is your greatest strength and your greatest weakness? 
161. When was the last time you lied? What did you lie about? 
162. What made you smile this week? 
163. What do you do with the majority of your money? 
164. What motivates you to be your best? 
165. When was the last time you lost your temper?  About what? 
166. What will you never give up on? 
167. When you look into the past, what do you miss the most? 
168. How would you describe the past year of your life in one sentence? 
169. What is the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done? 
170. What makes you uncomfortable? 
171. What worries you about the future? 
172. What one ‘need’ and one ‘want’ will you strive to achieve in the next twelve months? 
173. What life lessons did you have to experience firsthand before you fully understood them? 
174. Do you like the city or town you live in? Why or why not? 
175. What’s the best part of being you? 
176. When you look back over the past month, what single moment stands out? 
177. What do you do to relieve stress? 
178. What is your happiest memory? 
179. What is your saddest memory?
180. What would you like to change? 
181. How many people do you love? 
182. What’s the best decision you’ve ever made? 
183. What’s your favorite true story that you enjoy sharing with others? 
184. Right now, at this moment, what do you want most? 
185. What are you waiting for? How are you writing your life’s story? 
186. What makes love last? 
187. What good comes from suffering? 
188. What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned in the last year? 
189. Based on you current daily actions and routines, where would you expect to be in five years? 
190. What was your last major accomplishment?  
191. Through all of life’s twists and turns who has been there for you? 
192. What or who has been distracting you? 
193. What are you looking forward to in the upcoming week? 
194. Who is your mentor and what have you learned from them? 
195. What are you uncertain about? 
196. What do you think about when you lie awake in bed? 
197. What’s something most people don’t know about you? 
198. When you have a random hour of free time, what do you usually do? 
199. What makes you weird? 
200. If you could relive yesterday what would you do differently? 
201. What do you do over and over again that you hate doing? 
202. Would you rather your child be less attractive and extremely intelligent or extremely attractive and less intelligent? 
203. What white lies do you often tell? 
204. What is the biggest change you have made in your life in the last year?
205. In one sentence, who are you?
206. Why do you matter?
207. What is your life motto?
208. What’s something you have that everyone wants?
209. What is missing in your life?
210. What’s been on your mind most lately?
211. Happiness is a ________?
212. What stands between you and happiness?
213. What do you need most right now?
214. What does the child inside you long for?
215. What is one thing right now that you are totally sure of?
216. What’s been bothering you lately?
217. What are you scared of?
218. What has fear of failure stopped you from doing?
219. What will you never give up on?
220. What do you want to remember forever?
221. What makes you feel secure?
222. Which activities make you lose track of time?
223. What’s the most difficult decision you’ve ever made?
224. What’s the best decision you’ve ever made?
225. What are you most grateful for?
226. What is worth the pain?
227. What is something you’ve always wanted, but don’t yet have?
228. What was the most defining moment in your life during this past year?
229. What’s the number one change you need to make in your life in the next twelve months?
230. What’s the number one thing you want to achieve in the next five years?
231. What is the biggest motivator in your life right now?
232. What will you never do?
233. What’s something you said you’d never do, but have since done?
234. What’s something new you recently learned about yourself?
235. What do you sometimes pretend to understand that you really do not?
236. In one sentence, what do you wish for your future self?
237. What worries you most about the future?
238. When you look into the past, what do you miss most?
239. What’s something from the past that you don’t miss at all?
240. What recently reminded you of how fast time flies?
241. What is the biggest challenge you face right now?
242. In one word, how would you describe your personality?
243. What never fails to frustrate you?
244. What are you known for by your friends and family?
245. What’s something most people don’t know about you?
246. What’s a common misconception people have about you?
247. What’s something a lot of people do that you disagree with?
248. What’s a belief you hold with which many people disagree?
249. What’s something that’s harder for you than it is for most people?
250. What are the top three qualities you look for in a friend?
251. If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?
252. When you think of ‘home,’ what, specifically, do you think of?
253. What’s the most valuable thing you own?
254. If you had to move 3000 miles away, what would you miss most?
255. What would make you smile right now?
256. What do you do when nothing else seems to make you happy?
257. What do you wish did not exist in your life?
258. What should you avoid to improve your life?
259. What is something you would hate to go without for a day?
260. What’s the biggest lie you once believed was true?
261. What’s something bad that happened to you that made you stronger?
262. What’s something nobody could ever steal from you?
263. What’s something you disliked when you were younger that you truly enjoy today?
264. What are you glad you quit?
265. What do you need to spend more time doing?
266. What are you naturally good at?
267. What have you been counting or keeping track of recently?
268. What has the little voice inside your head been saying lately?
269. What’s something you should always be careful with?
270. What should always be taken seriously?
271. What should never be taken seriously?
272. What are three things you can’t get enough of?
273. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
274. What fascinates you?
275. What’s the difference between being alive and truly living?
276. What’s something you would do every day if you could?
277. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
278. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
279. What makes you feel incomplete?
280. When did you experience a major turning point in your life?
281. What or who do you wish you lived closer to?
282. If you had the opportunity to get a message across to a large group of people, what would your message be?
283. What’s something you know you can count on?
284. What makes you feel comfortable?
285. What’s something about you that has never changed?
286. What will be different about your life in exactly one year?
287. What mistakes do you make over and over again?
288. What do you have a hard time saying “no” to?
289. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
290. What’s something that used to scare you, but no longer does?
291. What promise to yourself do you still need to fulfill?
292. What do you appreciate most about your current situation?
293. What’s something simple that makes you smile?
294. So far, what has been the primary focus of your life?
295. How do you know when it’s time to move on?
296. What’s something you wish you could do one more time?
297. When you’re 90-years-old, what will matter to you the most?
298. What would you regret not fully doing, being, or having in your life?
299. If you could have one breakfast for tomorrow knowing it’s the last day you will live, what would that be?
300. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you like as a dinner guest?
301. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
302. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
303. If you knew in one year you would die suddenly, what would you change about the way you are living your life now?
304. Do you think your name affects your personality or choice of career?
305. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
306. If happiness was the national currency, what job would make you rich?
307. Do you push buttons more than once and do you believe that makes it work faster?
308. Would you want to be friends with yourself?
309. If you won a million dollars (or some large sum of money) would you quit your job?
310. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
311. Are you really wasting time if you’re enjoying it?
312. Would you rather lose all your money and valuables or all the pictures you’ve taken?
313. Would you rather have a horrible short-term memory or a long-term memory?
314. Would you rather go back to age five with everything you’ve learned or live now with everything you’ll learn in the future?
315. Are humans better at construction or destruction?
316. What is a year of life worth? What about a day?
317. Are emotions necessary for human survival?
318. What should they teach in high school but don’t?
319. What inscription do you want on your gravestone?
320. If you could ask a single person a question, and they had to answer truthfully, who and what would it be?
321. What is honour and does it matter?
322. Is being open-minded a virtue if it allows destructive ideas to spread through society?
323. What questions would you ask your future self?
324. If you dislike your family, are you obligated to spend time with them? Show up at family functions? Help them out in their time of need? Is a family even relevant anymore – especially when you have a close circle of friends?
325. Is it better to eat healthily all the time, or should we allow ourselves to indulge once in a while? Similarly, does this argument apply to drug use – even illegal drug use?
326. Why do we call some religions “mythologies” (ancient Greek, Norse, Egyptian, etc.) and others religions? Is this fair? What does this show about how relevant certain ideas are as society progresses?
327. People often talk about the growing gap between the rich and poor. However, today’s poor are much better off than most people (not just the poor) were a century ago. Does it matter that there’s an increasing gap between the rich and the poor if the standard of living for the poor keeps going up?
328. Is it truly worth it to die for a family member or friend? Yes, you’d be a hero, but that person would feel guilty for your death for the rest of their lives. Is that “brave” act actually cowardly because you’re transferring the guilt that you’d have felt if you did nothing and watched them die to your friend, who has to deal with the guilt of causing your death?
329. Is a day spent watching movies when you could’ve been working a day wasted or well spent?
330. What’s more important to a relationship: common values or other commonalities (like tastes in music, interests, etc.)?
331. What’s your opinion on love? Are there different types? Can we separate love from infatuation? Are there any qualifiers to make love “true” (rather than “fake”)?
332. Can we ever be sure that our perception of things is right – without consulting other people? If we do consult others, how are we to know whether theirs is true or if we’re both deluded?
333. Would your life be better or worse if you knew the day, time, and place that you were going to die?
334. Is it reasonable to have a sense of delusional confidence in your abilities, or would you rather build confidence by performing well in the past? If you choose the latter, doesn’t that mean that a single bad performance can shatter your confidence in yourself?
335. What should be the role of sex in society? Is it a big deal? A small deal? Somewhere in-between?
336. Would you be a martyr and give up your reputation amongst your peers to do what you know is right? Or is it better to be pragmatic and sit and do nothing?
337. Would you rather be insane in a functional society, or one of the people running a profoundly dysfunctional society?
338. Could you be persuaded to kill? If your answer is no, then how much money would it take to get you to change your mind?
339. If saving the human race required the sacrifice of yourself and everyone you love, who would you choose to save – you and your loved ones or humanity at large?
340. What if your God doesn’t exist?
341. Are the stories we tell ourselves about our past true, or do we bend the truth so we can create our stories? If the latter is true, than what worth is there in the stories if they aren’t true?
342. What is true strength?
343. What would happen if you never wasted another minute of your life? What would that look like?
344. Some say that striving for perfection is unhealthy. What if striving for perfection made you improve faster than you would have if you had lower expectations for yourself? Which way would be better?
345. Would you rather live for 10 years in excellent health, or 30 in “average” health, assuming that period started on your 18th birthday?
346. Do you believe in ghosts?
347. What would crush you more: seeing the love of your life die by getting hit by a car, or getting the call from your doctor that told you that you had cancer and had 6 weeks to live?
348. How do you think of yourself – hero or villain? Is the worst identity to have not the villain, but the person who is powerless?
349. How much control do you really have over yourself?
350. What do you think of white lies? Why do we tell others them? What if we went without them?
351. Who are you? Names, nationalities, and virtually any other socially-defined attributes do not count. Deep down, who are you?
352. Close your eyes and think of five things that make you smile when you think about them. What are they?
353. What is love to you?
354. What is the opposite of love?
355. Is it possible to love someone if you don’t love yourself?
356. Do you believe mutual attraction based on mutual hatred is possible?
357. What are three albums (soundtracks or compilations don’t count) that really define you or have shaped you as a person?
     
358. Do you focus more on the past, the present, or the future?
359. Do you judge people for what they wear or how they express themselves?
360. Do you believe in individuals over generalisations?
361. When you’re very scared or worried, what do you think about or do to help you feel better?
362. How do you feel about what happens after death?
363. Would you rather live a hedonistic life full of good things that make you feel good even if they’re bad for you, or a healthy life centered around treating your body like a sacred temple and watching your health as closely as possible? Or do you not care either way?
364. Do you think you can tell a lot about a person from the way they express themselves or answer questions like these?
365. Do you have any special or magical memories you’ll always have with you?
366. How would you define yourself, without saying your name or giving a physical description of yourself or your obvious personality?
367. When do you feel truly at peace?
368. Do you like having your worldview or opinions challenged or questioned?
369. Do you believe happiness can exist without sadness?
370. Is there a reason for existence?
371. Do you believe people need breaks from each other, even if they’re deeply in love?
372. What do you find most beautiful in people?
373. Do you take questions like these literally or pick up on what they really mean?
374. You are on a flight from Australia to LA non-stop. There is a fire in the back of the plane. You have enough time to make ONE phone call. Who do you call? What do you tell them?
375. You are at the doctor’s office and he has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? What do you do with your remaining days? Would you be afraid?
376. You can have one of the following two things. Which do you choose? Why? Love and Trust.
377. You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late even once more, you are fired. Do you take the time to save the dogs life? Why or Why not?
378. Would you rather be hurt by the one you trust the most or the one you love the most?
379. Your best friend confesses that he/she has feelings for you more than just friendship. He/she is falling in love with you. What do you (or did you) do/say?
380. Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?
381. Does love = sex?
382. Your boss tells your coworker that they have to let them go because of work shortage, and they are the newest employee. You have been there much longer. Your coworker has a family to support and no other means of income. Do you go to your boss and offer to leave the company? Why or Why not?
383. When was the last time you told someone HONESTLY how you felt regardless of how difficult it was for you to say? Who was it? What did you have to tell the person?
384. What would be (or what was) harder for you to tell a member of the opposite sex, you love them or that you do not love them back?
385. What do you think would be the hardest thing for you to give up? Why would it be hard to lose?
386. Excluding romantic love, when was the last time you told someone you loved them. Who were they to you?
387. If there was one moment and one time in the last month what would you change and why?
388. Imagine it is a dark night, you are alone, it is raining outside, you hear someone walking around outside your window. WHO do you wish was there with you?
389. Would you give a homeless person CPR if they were dying? Why or Why not?
390. You are holding onto your grandmother’s hand and the hand of a newborn that you do not know as they hang over the edge of a cliff. You have to let one go to save the other. Who do you let fall to their death? What was your rationale for making the decision?
391. Are you old fashioned?
392. When was the last time you were nice to someone and did NOT expect anything in return for it?
393. Which would you choose, true love with a guarantee of a broken heart, or never loved at all? Why?
394. If you could do anything or wish anything, what would it be?
395. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
396. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
397. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
398. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
399. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
400. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
401. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
402. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
403. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
404. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?
405. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
406. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
407. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
408. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
409. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
410. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back? 
411. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
412. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
413. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
414. Why are you, you?
415. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
416. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
417. What are you most grateful for?
418. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
419. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
420. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
421. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
422. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?
423. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
424. If not now, then when?
425. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
426. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
427. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
428. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
429. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
430. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
431. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
432. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
433. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
434. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
435. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
436. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
437. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
438. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
439. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?
440. Do you sometimes suddenly hear your own heartbeat and feel sick because what if it suddenly stops or something?
441. Most pets we keep only become a fraction of our age. Do you think that if they’d know this, they’d call us gods?
442. What are you more afraid of, space or the ocean?
443. Do you think we’re in control of our lives, generally? Or do you think we just think we are?
444. I think most people remember the exact moment they realised they were grown up. Because of something said to them, or something they saw - Do you remember that moment?
445. Complete the following: There would be fewer divorces in this country if only people ________.
446. One of us is going to die first. Do you think we’ll still know each other to find out who?
447. Do you think we’re all capable of murder when it comes down to it?
448. Are there things people have said to you that have legitimately changed you?
449. Why do people fear losing things that they don’t even have yet?
450. How do I know you even have a consciousness?
451. What do you feel people take for granted the most?
452. What if everything is just a coincidence? For instance: What if gravity doesn’t exist? Everything has just always coincidentally fallen to the ground.
453. Do you think other people’s judgments motivate us or hold us back?
454. If karma was coming back to you, would it help or hurt you?
455. What was the last book you read without skipping through anything?
456. What is the weirdest scar you have and how did you get it?
457. How did you meet your best friend?
458. What do you hate most about the dating process?
459. What do you do when you feel like giving up?
460. Do you think it’s the little things or grand gestures that count the most?