I Should Have Known Better (Lessons and Advice)

1. Do it or don’t. It’s amazing how many things in life are that easy. Learn to say "no" without explanation. 
2. People will ghost you. They will ignore you. They will take you for granted. It has nothing to do with yourself, but everything to do with the person who is too gutless to be honest about how they are feeling. Just walk away quietly and don’t make a fuss. Your distance and absence will affect them one day and make them realize what they lost. Someone else will be glad you exist. Rest easy knowing you gave them the best.
3. Remove sex from a relationship and you'll discover that a lot of people don't have anything else to offer. People seem to forget that mentality creates the bond and forms longevity. Sex is everywhere, chemistry isn’t. 
4. Lack of discipline; can wash out every talent, every effort, every dream from your life.
5. Be yourself. People don’t have to like you, but you don’t have to care. The right people will always stay. 
6. Pay attention to what is leaving and make peace with what isn’t coming back. Not everything and everyone is forever. You need to accept they served their purpose in your life. It takes a great amount of strength to let someone who was important to you go. 
7. Never underestimate the importance of having someone in your life who makes you want to be a better person, someone who wants to see you succeed in all aspects of life. We all need someone in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with someone may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage, vulnerability and risk and I hope you’re willing to take it because if you protect your heart too much, you’ll miss out on all the fun. To give someone a piece of your heart, is worth more than all the wealth in the world.
8. The best thing you can do for yourself is live a life that’s fulfilling and do all the things that make you happy. But also remember everyone has a different idea of what happiness looks like.
9. They may not have loved you, but they did change you. They taught you. They grew you.
10. Say it before you run out of time. Say it before it’s too late. Say what you’re feeling. Waiting is a mistake. Some people are so rare, there’s no upgrade after them. And I’m not talking about looks. When you find someone who can make you laugh, smile, grow, lust, want, crave, feel, make you mad but happy, keep that. That’s euphoria.
11. People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help. Always ask someone if they are okay, it can go along way.
12. Surround yourself with people who have dreams, desire and ambition; they will help you push for and realise your own. 
13. Aways go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not. 
14. It’s okay to restart and recreate. Not all positive change feels positive in the beginning. Don’t spend time beating yourself up over something that went wrong. There’s always another chance. Learn how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you can do that, you’re in control of your life, if not, life controls you.
15. Don’t be tricked into apologizing for something you didn’t even do wrong. 
16. The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you’ll tolerate. You can still be a kind person, and tell people to go fuck themselves when needed. It all begins with you, so if you do not care for yourself, you will not be strong enough to take care of anything in life. You only have so much emotional energy each day. Don’t fight battles that don’t matter.
17. There are times in life where the only choices you have are bad ones, but you still have to choose.
18. Respect and honesty are two of the greatest expressions of love.
19. You’re never in the wrong place. Sometimes you’re in the right place looking at things in the wrong way.
20. You must go on adventures to find out where you belong and sometimes the best ones are done alone. Find your safe place - whether it’s in the arms of someone, at a bookstore or a park bench.
21. Don’t make a habit out of choosing what feels good over what’s actually good for you.
22. Another person’s actions are never really about you. A person’s behavior towards you is a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves not a statement about your value as a person. You have to get to the point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the significant actions of someone else.
23. We’re not always going to understand why something happens. True faith is trusting even when it doesn’t make sense.
24. They’ll respect you more if you’re honest with your intentions. Good people exist. Rare, but they exist. And when they cross paths with you, be mature enough to not play games. Growing up is a decision, not a number.
25. Love is many things, but it is never deceitful. Nothing toxic comes from genuine love. Remember that.
26. Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know. Time can't heal what you won't acknowledge. But know that tomorrow it will hurt a little less and what you are waiting for will come when your heart is ready to carry it.
27. It’s not the mistake that matters. It’s how you deal with it, what you learn from it, and how you apply that lesson to your life. The universe will give you the exact same lesson in many versions until you master it. This is one of the most single important laws you can learn about the nature of reality.
28. Any time could be the last time you talk to someone. We are all just a diagnosis, a car crash, an unexpected phone call, or a broken heart away from having our lives altered forever. Always keep that in mind. You’re going to lose people in your life. And you’ll realise that no matter how much time you spent with them, or how much you appreciated them, it will never seem like it was enough.
29. Gut feelings are guardian angels. Trust it!
30. The most beautiful things in life are just not things. They’re people and places, memories and pictures. They’re feelings and moments and laughter.
31. Just because someone addresses something with you doesn’t mean they are trying to argue. It’s called communicating. More people need to understand this. 
32. Pay less attention to what people say. Just watch what they do.
33. Sometimes you have to make peace with the fact that you are the villain in someone else’s story even if you thought you were doing the right thing. You don’t get to tell them how to narrate their experience. 
34. Everything comes on it’s chosen day.
35. If they wanted to message, call or see you they would have, and they don’t, that’s why they haven’t is a clear message. It’s all about actions. 
36. How someone treats you is more important than how much you like them. 
37. Not everyone has the same heart as you.
38. You’ve got to understand the difference between a man who speaks to you on his free time and a man who frees his time to speak to you. You’ve got to understand the difference between a man who spends his time with you when he’s not too busy and a man who’s never too busy to spend time with you. You’ve got to understand the difference between a man who wants to see you because he misses you and a man who misses you enough to actually go see you. You’ve got to understand the difference between a man who tries to make an effort and a man who makes an effort to try. You’ve got to understand the difference between a man who talks to a lot of girls including you and a man who only talks to you instead of a lot of girls. You’ve got to understand the difference between a man who gets mad because you’re asking for too much and a man who gets mad because he wishes he could give you more. You’ve got to understand the difference between a man who loves to hurt you and a man who gets hurt because he loves you. And once you understand the difference, you’ll know if you’re with the right person and you’ve found a gentleman. 
39. You don’t have to be single to get your shit together, the right partner won’t hinder you. They in fact may do the complete opposite and give you the push you need to take those next steps you would have been afraid to take on your own. 
40. When people show you their red flags, show them your white flag and peace out. 
41. People make lists in their head about what they want in a lover, like brown hair and a sweet voice. A sharp mind and a soft heart, a sense of humour that actually makes you laugh like you mean it. This and that. And it’s all bullshit. Because people aren’t lists. And you should be the type of person who makes someone realise that. You should want to come across someone with a list in their head that is nothing like the person you are, and show them what they didn’t even know they were looking for. People who think they know what they want are fooling themselves. Nobody really knows what they want. Not until it’s right in front of them. 
42. There’s a lot of mourning in growth.
43. Don’t ever be someone’s second choice.
44. Live every moment with feeling and emotion because if you try to decipher it and understand it, the magic disappears. 
45. Don’t chase another human being. Instead, chase your curiosity. Chase your development and goals. Chase your passion. Strive to work for something bigger than yourself, and instead of trying to convince someone that you fit within their world, build your own. 
46. Sometimes things are exactly what they seem, that’s all. 
47. It is an act of bravery to feel your feelings. 
48. If you’re not exploring life, if you’re not looking for yourself, if you’re not finding many different things you love, what are you even doing?
49. Communicate. Even if it’s uncomfortable. The best way to heal is simply getting everything out. 
50. The best dating advice - if they like you, you’ll know. If they don’t, you’ll be confused. 
51. You can criticise talent, but you can’t argue hardwork. 
52. You’ll be admired for running from the people and things that cause you pain. But you’ll be admired even more for never going back. 
53. When you’re a good, kind, caring person, you don’t lose people, they lose you. 
54. Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires a profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding. 
55. Do not accept verbal apologies, only changed behaviour. 
56. People will notice the change in your attitude towards them but will never notice their behaviour that made you change. 
57. How long someone chooses to love you will never be your decision. 
58. Every time you lower your frequency to someone elses level you end up paying for it. Make them rise to meet you. 
59. Nothing compares to a deep conversation with an intelligent mind. 
60. If you never heal from what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you. 
61. Your entire identity shouldn’t be centered around the trauma you’ve experienced nor should you project it onto someone else. Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; but eventually it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hand inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past - the memories - and make peace with them and move forward. 
62. If you have to constantly check for receipts on someone’s character credibility, then you should reconsider why you would want to surround yourself with an energy that requires so much research. 
63. It’s the process that’s stimulating, not the achievement. Everything is about starting again. 
64. Sometimes the miracle and the mistake are the same thing. 
65. Don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from. 
66. Someone can tell you over and over again to leave a situation, but you won’t until you are ready. One day you’ll wake up and realise that this isn’t what you want to feel like anymore and you’ll be done. 
67. How someone makes you feel emotionally and mentally is far more important than what they can do for you materialistically and physically. Always choose love, affection and emotional support. 
68. You’ll never be too much for someone who can’t get enough of you. 
69. The universe doesn’t answer questions. It simply gives you signs. They more you ignore them, the louder they get. 
70. People who care will ask you how you’re doing. People who love you will wait until you tell the truth.
71. There is no point in arguing with someone who does not have an open mind. People with a close mind mentality will never look at all the variables being presented, just the ones that benefit them. 
72. Worthy isn’t something you can chase, earn, request or create. It is something you recognise you already are. 
73. Don’t do anyone any favours if they’re going to sit there counting them.
74. Women will fuck whoever they want. Men will fuck whoever they can. Big difference.
75. Realise what you have before you lose someone you can’t replace.
76. Intelligence doesn’t come from books, knowledge and rational thought. That’s just information and interpretation. Real intelligence is when your mind and heart connect. That’s when you see the truth so clearly and unmistakably that you don’t have to think about it. 
77. Strong women don’t have an attitudes, they just have standards.
78. No matter what mood you’re in, manners still exist. 
79. The signs you ignore in the beginning just end up being the reason you leave later. 
80. When you’re thinking about the person you want to spend your natural life with, that means you need to think about the person who will be by your side when life is hard. When your parents die. When you lose your job. When your child is hurt. When bills can’t get paid. And when all of those painful moments come, you have to think “is this the person I want by my side? Is this the person who will be generous and giving when I’m in need? Is this the person who will find the words to soothe my aching heart? Is this the person that when I look across the room through tearful eyes, I want to, need to see their face?” Commitment is more than just walking down the isle. It’s who you want to walk through life with.
81. Part of being human is that we can’t go back, we can only hope that if we come across that moment again we’ll do it the right way.
82. Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.
83. There is a ton of shit you can get in life if you’re willing to submit yourself to the mortifying horror of asking for it.
84. The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.
85. Beware of what you let enter your heart. There’ll come a day when you’d give anything to remove it.
86. Nobody wants to do it - not real change, not soul change, not the painful molecular change required to truly become who you need to be. Nobody ever does real transformation for fun. Nobody ever does it on a dare. You do it only when your back is so far against the wall that you have no choice anymore.
87. Things get broken, and sometimes they get repaired, and in most cases, you realize that no matter what gets damaged, life rearranges itself to compensate for your loss, sometimes wonderfully.
88. There are threads in our lives. You pull one, and everything else gets affected.
89. You have all these options and when you make a decision, you feel you lose a world of possibilities. But the reality is, until you make a decision, you have nothing at all.
90. There is no intensity of love or feeling that does not involve the risk of crippling hurt. It is a duty to take this risk, to love and feel without defense or reserve.
91. We attract to ourselves what we hold inside. Every circumstance, every person, and every situation that we attract and experience is based on what is inside of us. Your life is a reflection of what you hold inside you, and what you hold inside you is always under your control.
92. Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.
93. Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.
94. As you get older, you realise that you’re not always right and there’s so many things you could’ve handled better, so many situations where you could’ve been kinder and all you can really do is forgive yourself and let your mistakes make you a better person.
95. A good laugh and a long run are the two best cures for anything. Not every run is going to be your best, your fastest, your longest, but you will grow just from putting one foot in front of the other, regardless. 
96. Are you scared? Or are you not ready? There is a difference.
97. When people appear to be something other than good and decent, it is only because they are reacting to stress, pain, or the deprivation of basic human needs such as security, love, and self-esteem.
98. Be so completely yourself that everyone else feels safe to be themselves too.
99. It is okay to be at a place of struggle. Struggle is just another word for growth. Struggle is a sure sign that you are expanding; it is your indication of real and important progress. The only one who doesn’t struggle is the one who doesn’t grow. 
100. There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.
101. A lot of things may have broken your heart, but it fixed your vision. Read that again. 
102. Sometimes we want to be told “I need you” more than we do “I love you”, because we want to feel that our lives have a purpose. So, be brave and say honestly, “I need you”.
103. Each mind has a different universe.
104. There is nothing wrong with taking your time with things that you love in life.
105. Before you start thinking life’s treated you wrong, just know you probably had it staring you right in the face. You had someone who loved you beyond measure, someone you loved talking to, someone that could make you laugh, someone that you trusted, someone that loves you for you. And you said no.
106. We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s who we really are.
107. Home is not where you live but where they understand you.
108. With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.
109. There’s a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where yours begin. 
110. Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.
111. Each relationship between two people is absolutely unique. That is why you cannot love two people the same. It simply is not possible. You love each person differently because of who they are and the uniqueness that they draw out of you.
112. When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.
113. Loneliness does not come from being alone, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important.
114. Sometimes you can only feel something by its absence. By the empty spaces it leaves behind.
115. Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hold on too long.
116. Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these, you can handle anything.
117. Just because you can feel another person's emotions doesn't make you responsible for them.
118. We are all just waiting for someone to notice —notice our pain, notice our scars, notice our fear, notice our joy, notice our triumphs, notice our courage. And when you find the one who notices all of these, hold on to them tight, it is a rare and beautiful gift.
119. If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.
120. What you are in love with, what seizes your imagination will affect everything. It will decide what will get you out of bed in the mornings, what you will do with your evenings, how you spend your weekends, what you read, who you know, what breaks your heart, and what amazes you with joy and gratitude. Fall in love, stay in love, and it will decide everything.
121. Recovery is a process. It takes time. It takes patience. It takes everything you’ve got.
122. Addiction is a decision. An individual wants something, whatever that something is, and makes a decision to get it. Once they have it, they make a decision to take it. If they take it too often, that process of decision making gets out of control, and if it gets far out of control, it becomes an addiction. At that point the decision is a difficult one to make, but it is still a decision. Do I or don't I? Am I going to take or am I not going to waste my life or am I going to say no and try and stay sober and be a decent person? It is a decision. Each and every time. A decision. String enough of those decisions together and you set a course and you set a standard of living. 
123. Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever the substance you are addicted to — alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person — you are using something or somebody to cover up your pain. That is why, after the initial euphoria has passed, there is so much unhappiness, so much pain in intimate relationships. They do not cause pain and unhappiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you. Every addiction does that. Every addiction reaches a point where it does not work for you anymore, and then you feel the pain more intensely than ever. It’s a vicious cycle that needs to be fixed by acknowledging why you’re doing it, then healing from it and moving forward. 
124. A good person knows how to be kind when it is necessary. A warm person knows how to be kind for no reason at all.
125. When someone is willing to struggle with you, just so that they can build with you, that’s love.
126. We all have our own timeline. Don’t compare yourself to someone else’s life. No one is an overnight success. 
127. Be with someone who doesn't want to change you but motivates you to become a better you.
128. Dreams and dedication are a powerful combination.
129. Speak the truth, even if your voice shakes. Don’t sugarcoat bullshit and call it a brownie.
130. It’s worth it. To tell someone everything you feel about them, even if they don't reciprocate it like the way you wanted them to.
131. How to tell if somebody is genuinely interested in you: If you removed all of your effort from the equation would any communication remain between you? If not, there is nothing there and you deserve better.
132. Pay attention to the things you are naturally drawn to. They are often connected to your path, passion, and purpose in life. Have the courage to follow them.
133. Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn’t be one of them.
134. If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind wanders.
135. Helping people is a better high than any drug.
136. Emotional intelligence is just as important as rational intelligence.
137. Self-esteem is the ability to see yourself as a flawed individual and still hold yourself in high regard.
138. Focusing too much on what you can’t control only leads to more things slipping out of your control.
139. Be consistent, or stay out of their life. Effort is a two-way street.
140. When you make a choice, you also choose the consequence. 
141. Don’t make yourself so easily available for people who don’t ever prioritise you. 
142. Their actions will show how much they respect you. 
143. An apology without change is just manipulation.
144. Don’t fear failure and heartbreak so much that you refuse to try new things or fall in love. The saddest summary of a life contains four descriptions: could have, might have, should have, and what if. 
145. Some things are too important to wait.
146. Life is meant to be lived, and if you're offered the chance to experience things with an extraordinary person, then there isn't one reason in the world to say no.
147. No matter how hard it feels, you don't need to be afraid to move on. There's always more to see and feel.
148. If you change, make sure it’s for yourself and no one else. 
149. What’s yours will find you. 
150. You may have done some things wrong but you’ve also done a lot of things right.
151. Nothing makes a room feel emptier than wanting someone in it.
152. People who do you wrong are just helping you. They’re helping you realize what you don’t need in your life and what you really deserve.
153. Sometimes people sneak up on you and suddenly you don’t know you ever lived without them.
154. Once you lose someone, it is never exactly the same person who comes back.
155. There’s a difference between challenging yourself and overwhelming yourself.
156. When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t. 
157. Part of loving people: You have to give things up. Sometimes you even have to give them up.
158. Stop replying to unworthy messages just to keep a conversation going.
159. Letting yourself fall in love and opening yourself to the possibility of getting hurt is the bravest thing that you could do.
160. One of the hardest things you will ever have to do is grieve the loss of a person who is still alive.
161. Don’t let everyone get the privilege of getting to know you.
162. Appreciate what you have right now, because you don’t always get a second chance.
163. Not having enough time" and “having little time left” mean two different things and give different feelings. If you feel like you don’t have enough time, you will rush; you will hurry; you will try to get as many things done at once. But if you feel like you have little time left, you will do the most important thing first; you won’t procrastinate; you won’t postpone. But most importantly, you will do one thing at a time.
164. A healthy relationship is one where two independent people just make a deal that they will help make the other person the best version of themselves.
165. There are some people you’ll never see again. At least, not in the same way.
166. Some people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone, but that does not always mean they are supposed to get it back.
167. Just because it’s all you want, doesn’t mean it’s all you need.
168. You can’t spend the best years of your life waiting for somebody to love you back. Move on. Find someone more deserving of your love. 
169. Intelligence and kindness will never stop being beautiful.
170. If your absence doesn’t affect them, your presence never mattered.
171. Opening your heart and being courageous and telling people that you care about them or like them or that you think they’re special only makes you a better, bigger, kinder, softer, more loving person and only attracts more love in your life.
172. When people treat you like they don’t care, believe them.
173. No decision will pay off more than prioritizing your life and giving extreme focus and energy to the things with the highest return.
174. Question everything.
175. It doesn’t matter whether you need them or not, just treat people right.
176. The most memorable people in life will be the friends who loved you when you weren’t very lovable.
177. Beautiful faces are everywhere but beautiful minds are hard to find.
178. If you can’t laugh in bed with someone, you’ve probably picked the wrong someone.
179. You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.
180. Don’t ever become so consumed with someone else that you forget your own existence.
181. If you want to go somewhere you like but no one else wants to, go by yourself. You’ll meet people with similar interests as you.
182. Happiness is the only thing we can give without having.
183. There’s a big difference between: who we love, who we settle for and who we’re meant for.
184. Keep your relationship private without keeping your partner a secret. There’s a difference between privacy and secrecy.
185. Just because someone desires you, it does not mean that they value you. Read it over. Again. 
186. Find someone who admires you for something less obvious.
187. If your plan doesn’t work, change the plan, not your goal.
188. Go for it. Whether it ends good or bad, it was an experience.
189. Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish, it makes you indestructible.
190. Someone will make you realise why hurricanes are named after people.
191. Not many people in this world has the patience to deal with someone who is just sad. So be that person who is patient. Just listen, and be understanding. It could save their life. 
192. Personality and attitude are two completely different things. 
193. It’s not hard to decide what you want your life to be about. What’s hard, is figuring out what you’re willing to give up in order to do the things you really care about.
194. There is not one person in this world that is not cripplingly sad about something. Remember that before you open your mouth.
195. Karma has no deadline. 
196. People do their best work because they’re excited or compelled to do it, not because they think it will be popular or big. Their work you love was likely made from love. Ambition was an just an afterthought. 
197. Don’t talk yourself out of the rooms you’ve earned the right to be in.
198. Just because someone carries it well, doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy. 
199. Manifesting isn’t about creating something new, it’s about aligning with what already exists.
200. You can’t judge how someone is dealing with a pain you have never felt. 
201. The lost eventually do come back, but that doesn’t mean you have to answer.
202. For your peace of mind learn to distinguish who deserves an explanation, who deserves one answer, and who deserves absolutely nothing.
203. If someone can’t understand that you require space, then they’re already taking up too much.
204. The truth is rarely pure and never simple.
205. Just because you couldn’t see someone’s red flags doesn’t mean you deserve to be treated badly.
206. Comfort zones don’t keep your life safe. They keep your life small.
207. Character is how you treat people who can do nothing for you. 
208. Just because things could’ve been different, it doesn’t mean they’d be better.
209. If something doesn’t feel right with your body, go to the doctor immediately, don’t put it off, it could save your life. 
210. You’re not too old, and it’s not too late.
211. You don’t always get to be with the person you love.
212. Life isn’t about accumulation, it’s about contribution. 
213. If you don’t make time for your wellness, you’ll be forced to make time for your illness.
214. Forgive yourself for the survival patterns and traits you picked up while enduring trauma. Forgive yourself for who you needed to be at the time.
215. Don’t be the reason someone feels insecure. Be the reason someone feels seen, heard and supported.
216. Love yourself. But also analyse and be critical of how you think, act and behave. Self love without self awareness is useless. Be accountable. 
217. People grow when they are loved well. If you want to help others heal, love them without an agenda.
218. Creative hobbies are important when dealing with mental illness. If you can’t draw, there are coloring books. If you can’t write a novel, you can write in short journaling bursts. If you can’t sing in the shower, you can listen to music. Sometimes with mental illness people feel like they have this dark presence inside of them that is bumping around in their brain and organs, causing problems. It helps immensely to let it out.
219. There is no reset button in life. You can’t take anything back, and you can’t undo anything. All of your actions have consequences, and the things you say and do today will have a lasting impact on the rest of your life. You have to understand that, and you have to be aware of it while making both small and big decisions throughout your day.
220. You’re not wrong to expect a love that respects and values you for the person you are. You’re wrong to expect anything less.
221. Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth even if they don’t.
222. You can tell that you’re filling yourself with the wrong things. You use a lot of energy, and in the end, you feel emptier and less comfortable than ever.
223. You must accept the end of something in order to build something new.
224. When someone truly cares about you, they make an effort not an excuse.
225. Don’t lose your mind trying to understand someone else’s.
226. Just 30 minutes of physical activity a day will make you mentally stronger. 
227. Difficult doesn’t mean impossible. It simply means you have to work hard.
228. Be careful with how much you tolerate. You are teaching them how to treat you.
229. Learn how powerful it is to say “this is what i feel” and “this is what i want” and firmly stand by it. 
230. Before you argue with someone ask yourself “is this person mentally mature enough to grasp the concept of different perspectives?”. If not, there’s absolutely no point.
231. Sometimes not speaking says more than all the words in the world.
232. It’s not the future you’re afraid of. It’s repeating the past that makes you anxious. 
233. You cannot make someone understand a message they are not ready to receive.
234. Be honest about how you feel at that moment. Harbouring everything to avoid conflict creates a build up of stress and anxiety that will resurface in the future, unannounced.
235. It is a lonely feeling when someone you care about becomes a stranger. 
236. Pay attention when people react with anger or hostility to your boundaries. You have found the edge where their respect for you ends.
237. There will be some people you meet in your life who will know you before they even know anything about you, and then there will be some people who know everything about you, but really don’t know you at all. Hold onto the ones who truly know who you are and not just what you have done. 
238. Stop giving people the benefit of doubt. It is what it looks like.
239. Words not matching actions is called manipulation and refusing to be held accountable for it is called gaslighting. This is abuse. 
240. People can be replaced. But certain connections can never be recreated. 
241. You can energetically feel the difference between people who love you and those who care at their own convenience.
242. Until you get very clear on what you want, you will get something that sorta-kinda-almost-but not quite meets it. Keep refining with each experience. It is creating clarity. 
243. You should never have to ask for something twice. If you have to repeat yourself they don’t care that much. 
244. Ambitious people really only have two options - a super supportive partner or no partner at all. 
245. Just because you have sex with someone over a long period of time doesn’t mean you’re close to them. Some people will let you touch every part of their body, but won’t let you anywhere near their heart and soul. 
246. You can leave a toxic relationship but if you don’t heal what attracted you to them, you will meet them again. The same demon, just in a different person. 
247. Communication is not what is needed. Comprehension is. You can communicate all you want with someone, but if they don’t understand you, it’s silent chaos.
248. Are they texting you or are they just responding? 
249. To be understood is possibly the greatest form of intimacy.
250. No one is ever ready, but when someone makes you feel alive again it’s kind of worth the risk.
251. A person who values you will never put themselves in a position to lose you. 
252. Don’t let them hit you up after their little situation didn’t work out. You’re not second best. 
253. Don’t fucking bark, if you can’t fucking bite. 
254. Sometimes you can be too much for someone, and you have to be okay with letting them go back to what they are used to. 
255. If you catch yourself begging someone for human decency, a response, time together, clarity, respect, compassion or even some kindness, you need to take a step back and realise that you’re begging someone for the bare minimum and that’s just ridiculous. 
256. Don’t tell someone they’re wrong until you’ve see things from their point of view. 
257. You never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right people are timeless. The right people make you want to throw away the plans you originally had for yourself and follow them into the hazy, unknown future without a glance backwards. The right people don’t make you hmm and haw about whether or not you want to be with them; you just know. You know that any adventure you had originally planned out for your future isn’t going to be half as incredible as the adventures you could have by their side. That no matter what you thought you wanted before, this is better. Everything is better since they came along.
258. There is intimacy in eye contact.
259. To meet someone. And be met. To be chosen. To choose. To love. To be loved. This is everything. 
260. To be human is to understand that life is going to meet you with circumstances that will bury you deep within yourself, with things that will hurt to acknowledge, with people who will fumble with the way you feel so deeply. And to be human is to understand that life is going to meet you with opportunities that make your chest well with gratitude, with things that will make you want to live again, with people who will hold even the most damaged parts of who you are and kiss them softly, folding them back into you a little less bruised, and a little less broken, than they were before.
     
261. You’re always one decision away from a totally different life.
262. Your growth owes no one an explanation.
263. Confidence is silent. Insecurities are loud.
264. One of the most amazing things that can happen is finding someone who sees everything you are and won’t let you be anything less. They see the potential of you. They see endless possibilities and through their eyes, you start to see yourself the same way as someone who matters. As someone who can make a difference in the world.
     
265. Many will want you, but few will invest in you.
266. If someone cheats on you, they don’t give a fuck about the relationship. Period.
267. You deserve to be chosen instead of considered.
     
268. You disrespect yourself when you rekindle a relationship that didn’t work out the first time or humiliated you. 
269. Ask for feedback on your attempts, not advice on your ideas. 
270. Don’t shrink yourself to be digestible. Make them choke.